Get over the fantasy
Here are four tips to move on from someone you don’t know well, but feel drawn to:
Be compassionate with yourself. It’s natural to feel disappointed when something doesn’t work out. Acknowledge your feelings without judgement, and give yourself permission to feel the emotions wash over.
Acknowledge that your feelings for this person are mostly based on fantasy. It is important to recognise that the majority of your feelings toward this person arise from your own narrative. Remind yourself that much of your interest in this person may be from your perception, and much of what you may be fantasising about may not be accurate. It is critical to let go of your thoughts, and address how they affect your feelings in order to move on.
Understand that focusing on a specific person will interfere with meeting other potential partners. This awareness will help you catch yourself engaging in these habits.
Focus on your relationship goals. Allow yourself time to accept your feelings, and take a break from dating to heal and readjust your expectations. Stay focused on your goals and values, and take intentional action.
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